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24 Signals That Show You're Interested With Someone

Pounding heart, sweaty fists, and butterflies are all common signs of nervousness and come out in waves when you start getting close to your crush. But there are many more indicators of interest that happen long before these symptoms. Here are a few more subtle indicators that you’re interested in someone.

1) You Can’t Stop Thinking About Them

When you like someone, they’re on your mind all the time. You find yourself thinking about them in the strangest times, like in the shower or at the breakfast table. This is your brain’s way of letting you know you feel a physical attraction to someone and it’s time to look at how they feel about you.

2) You Lick your Lips

Licking your lips is a way not only to show that you’re interested in them, but also to draw their attention down to your lips, encouraging them to think about kissing you. Try this subtle gesture the next time you’re feeling flirty and see if you’ll get an invitation to smooch later on in the evening.

3) You Tease Them

Teasing dates back to childhood, when little boys would deliberately be mean to girls just to grab their attention. Well into adulthood we see that not much has changed. Teasing is a way to show affection for someone but be careful not to let it get too personal, or your crush might take offence.

4) You Move Closer

Moving closer to someone is a great non-verbal way to show you have feelings for them. Leaning in close while they talk or going out of your way to sit closer to them in social situations is a tell-tale sign that you’re interested. It indicates that you would like to get even closer to this person and if you’re lucky, they’ll want the same thing, too.

5) You Share Your Stories

If you find yourself sharing personal stories with someone more and more often, chances are you’re into them. Sharing stories with another person shows that you trust them and want to include them in your life. The people we enjoy talking about our families with are the people we don’t mind opening up to, so think about taking the next step and inviting them for coffee.

6) You Smile

Smiling is the universal human signal to show that you’re enjoying yourself. We are naturally drawn toward people that make us happy, so show that person how they make you feel by opening up and displaying those beautiful, pearly whites. Smiling is an indication that you are happy and relaxed, exactly the way your crush should make you feel.

7) You Toss your Hair

Hair tossing is a subconscious action to indicate attraction dating back to Cro-Magnon days. Women will play with their hair as a way to show that they’re interested in being more than just friends. Whether you’re the one doing the flirting or receiving the flirting, a simple toss of the hair is a great signal for all parties involved.

8) Everything Reminds You of Them

From cheesy jingles on the radio to veggies in the supermarket to ads on the side of a bus, almost everything you see reminds you of that person. If you find yourself noticing their name scrolling through credits or their favourite author in the window of a bookstore, you know you’ve got it bad.

9) You Open Up Your Body

When you are talking to someone you are romantically interested in, your body has a natural way of opening up to let them know you are thinking about them in a more-than-friends kind of way. Your shoulders move to face them and your hips orient themselves toward their hips. This is normal for your body and might even happen without you noticing!

10) You Laugh at Their Jokes

Everything always seems a little bit funnier when you’re romantically interested in somebody. You find yourself laughing louder than usual and here and there even coming up with a few jokes of your own. We laugh to encourage our crush to continue with the conversation and to show enjoyment in your shared activities. Laughing is hugely importance in a relationship as it’s a great indicator of comfort level and social compatibility.

11) You Laugh Even When It’s Not Funny

An even better romantic interest indicator than laughing at someone’s jokes is laughing at their jokes when they’re not funny, just to spare their feelings. This means that you care about the person you’re spending time with and want them to feel good about themselves. Showing support is a large part of building a relationship and this is a way to show that you’re ready to lay the foundation.

12) You Mirror Them

As imitation is the highest form of flattery, so mimicking someone’s physical movements and speech patterns is the best way to let them know you want to get to know them better. Matching movements like touching your face or crossing your legs is an easy way to get the two of you on the same page. And, it’s an easy test to see if they’re interested, too.

13) You Tilt Your Head

Women tend to tilt their heads and look up at someone to show that they’re intrigued by what the other person has to say. It may be a chance to show submission in a subtle way or a silent way to flirtatiously challenge what their partner has to say. If a woman moves her head in this way, it’s a sure sign that she’s at least interested in what’s coming out of the other person’s mouth.

14) You Don’t Blink

We blink less when we’re captivated by something, whether it be a book, a movie, a pet, or a hobby. The same goes for interest in people. When we are attracted to someone our pupils dilate and we close our eyelids much less often, indicating a desire to be closer.

15) You Remember the Little Things

You know you’ve got it bad when you find yourself remembering little details about that special someone. Small things like their middle name or their favourite colour will come out in conversation and you’ll start to think about them when you’re out shopping for yourself. Use this to your advantage, and pick up something small you know they’ll like to show your affection.

16) You Call Them by a Nickname

While cute at times, nicknames can be a little tricky. If you start calling your crush by something a little sillier, try to mention it when no one else is around. This way it will stay between the two of you and create a special space when you’re alone.

17) Their Opinion Matters

We are about the opinion of those people who matter most to us, so if you find you’re seeking out their wisdom on a regular basis, chances are you want more than just a casual relationship. Take their opinion into consideration but don’t try to change yourself just to gain their approval.

18) You Do Your Research

When they mention something new, you do your homework so the next time you get together you’ll have more to talk about. Researching your crush’s interests is a great way to show interest in them and their lives. It won’t go unnoticed and will only take a little bit of your time to show this person that you care about them.

19) You Dress to Impress

When you like someone, you want to put your best self forward. Taking a little bit of extra time to get ready before you see them next is a natural process that all humans experience. You should take extra time to present yourself in the best light; this shows you can take care of yourself and can, in turn, also take care of the one you desire.

20) You Stick Your Thumbs Out

Studies have shown that men will stick their thumbs out of their pockets (think cowboy style) to that they are sexually interested in someone. Next time you go to a party, check out where men place their hands. If the fingers are in the pocket but the thumb’s poking out, chances are good his sexual interest has been piqued.

21) You Feel Jealous

Jealousy is an innate human emotion that can be very difficult to control. It is an animalistic instinct that tells your brain you don’t want your partner mating with anyone else. A bit of jealousy is normal and can be a good motivator to treat your partner well (ensuring they won’t leave you for someone else) but if you find your jealousy getting out of control try to pinpoint your triggers and start making some changes in your relationship.

22) You Stand Up Straight

Think about birds showing off their feathers, or a peacock strutting around. Humans stand up taller when they are interested in mating with someone, to broaden the shoulders and give off the impression of an alpha in the pack: very strong and healthy. Often times we have set our shoulders back before we even realize we are doing it.

23) You Care

A definite way to know if you’re into somebody is if you find yourself really caring about that person. What they think and feel actually matters to you. You go out of your way to make them happy and sacrifice yourself to give them what they deserve. Caring about someone is the first step to a great relationship and is a signal that you’re thinking about making a move.

24) You See Them in the Future

Finally, if you can picture yourself with that person in the future, you’ve definitely got a crush brewing. Imagining spending the weekend away, introducing them to your parents, or even having a family with someone is a gigantic indicator that you are seriously interested. Make the first move: there’s no love not worth taking a risk for.

24 Things That Guys Secretly Like About A Girl

1. Her smell.

When a guy first notices a girl they like, they look at everything, beginning with the physical characteristics. Her clothes, her hair, the way she walks. However when he is really attracted to a girl, he starts to notice other things like her distinctive smell.

2. She’s not too picky.

Guys don’t want to date a girl who is too high maintenance. They want to be with someone who is relaxed, and is easy to be around. She doesn’t get upset easily over small details or when things don’t go her way.

3. She has a nice smile.

One of the things a guy loves about a girl is her smile. A smile can tell you a lot about someone’s personality. He loves seeing her sweet smile and being able to make her smile too.

4. She is social.

When he sees other people drawn to a girl, he becomes curious and eventually gets attracted as well. Guys see who she really is through her friends. A girl with a lot of friends is outgoing and knows how to have a good time.

5. She is family-oriented.

Look at how this girl interacts with her own family. When a guy sees that she has a good relationship with her family members, he appreciates that because it makes him think that she would make a good mother and life partner in the future.

6. She doesn’t take a long time to get ready.

Guys hate waiting for a girl who seems indecisive or takes too long to get ready. When a girl takes a long time to get ready, he may think that she is insecure with her looks or doesn’t respect his time. If a guy likes you, he already thinks you are beautiful as you are.

7. She’s doesn’t hesitate to get her hands dirty.

Guys like a girl who is determined and gets down to business. She does her own dirty work because she doesn’t think that she is better than any job. She understands the value of hard work very well.

8. She doesn’t complain too much.

There are some people who whine a lot and only see the negative side of things. Instead of trying to think of how they can improve the world, they use their energy to focus on what they can’t change. A girl who doesn’t complain a lot is nice to have around because she knows that complaining doesn’t do anything for anyone.

9. She doesn’t wear too much makeup.

Surprisingly, more and more guys prefer the natural look than to a girl who is fully made up. They would rather see a girl this way because it shows that she has nothing to hide. Remember, make up can only change the way someone looks, not their personality.

10. She is not afraid of discomfort.

She challenges herself because she knows this is the best way to learn and grow. She faces her fears head-on and does not run away from her problems. Guys like this in a girl because men are problem-solvers by nature.

11. She makes you things.

A well-thought out gift is the best kind of surprise, especially one that is made with love. Whether it be cookies, a card or a hand-knit sweater, guys find it really attractive when a girl has made something from scratch. These types of gifts are sentimental and sweet.

12. She reads.

Guys like a girl who reads because they see that she is curious to know about the world around her. A girl who reads a lot understands people and can see life from a wide set of perspectives. She has a creative imagination that allows her to explore and discover new things.

13. She’s not materialistic.

Money can buy you a lot of things, but it cannot buy you happiness. Shopping can make you happy because of the idea of owning new things, but you’ll find that the happiness is only momentary. A girl who doesn’t need a lot of things is a turn on because she has less things weighing her down and symbolically, less baggage to deal with.

14. She is intelligent.

Some girls think that guys prefer naive women because they are easier to approach.On the contrary, intelligence is a highly sought out trait in a partner because it aids in human survival and development. Intelligence comes in many different forms, and is not limited to book or street smarts. It is more about learning to use what you have, such as skills and knowledge, in order to make a better life for yourself.

15. She takes care of you.

Guys are drawn to girls with a maternal instinct because the way a girl can make you feel loved and secure is reminiscent of their own mom. Various studies have shown that we tend to be attracted to partners who possess the same qualities that we see in our parents. A girl who takes good care of you also sends a guy signs that she might be wife and mother material.

16. She cooks.

Historically, women have generally played the role of caretaker while men have been the breadwinner of the family. Men often seek out partners who can cook because this aids in survival and helps reduce the family’s financial burden. Cooking is also a trait associated with femininity so women who cook are seen as more feminine.

17. She takes care of herself.

Even though men consider personality to be more important than looks, physical attractiveness is indeed a key factor in choosing a partner. Men prefer healthy and youthful-looking women because these two traits are associated with fertility and good genes. Women who take care of themselves are seen as potential mates who can produce healthy children.

18. She fights for you.

Generally, men are seen as more aggressive creatures who defend their partners against potential threats while women are seen as more passive. Guys are turned on by girls who are willing to fight for them because this proves her love for him. This is because guys want to be desired and protected too.

19. She’s down to earth.

Nothing is more appealing than someone who’s honest and authentic. A girl who knows what she wants and doesn’t try too hard makes a good match because she has no pretenses. What you see from the get go is what you get. A girl who is down to earth stays away from drama and can help a guy grow to his full potential.

20. She has a dominant side.

She’s a natural leader who knows how to take charge of a situation. Guys find assertive girls attractive because they know what they want and do not let anyone or anything get in their way. Also, a girl with a strong personality might bring him some surprises in the bedroom.

21. She’s loyal.

Loyalty and devotion are definitely must-haves when looking for a suitable long-term partner. Guys want to be with someone who is all in and is committed to the relationship, so they feel like they aren’t wasting their time. A girl who is loyal shows him her sincere feelings of contentment in the relationship. She does not lead him on or make him feel like she will betray him.

22. She’s ambitious.

Ambition is another one of those traits people associate with traditional masculinity, yet men actually like a woman who is a go-getter. He does not feel emasculated by her but rather, he is inspired by what she has done for her career and for herself so far. He knows that a woman who is driven can support herself without him. She is independent and can do things for herself.

23. She understands you on an emotional level.

Men are not necessarily less emotional than women, they are just taught to be this way. Guys are more emotionally closed than women because they fear being judged for feeling strongly and expressing these feelings, especially when they are feelings of sadness. Guys will open up to girls that they feel a strong emotional connection to, and who reciprocate these feelings.

24. She’s not perfect.

Everyone has an image of the perfect person in their heads but often find that this person does not exist in real life. The truth is that, imperfections are attractive because they remind us that the person is real and human. Guys like a girl who is not perfect because he learns how to accept her flaws and shortcomings. It is even more attractive to see a girl who has also embraced own weaknesses.

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Tyler Ward - Dashes [Official Lyric Video]

"Dashes"

Maybe one day I'll come back here,

Maybe one day I'll be able to love you like I should.

I know it looks like I'm running,

I never said that what we have here wasn't good.

If I don't try now I'll go crazy.

I don't want to wish that I had when I look back on my life.

There’s a feeling I'm chasing 

Feels like what I once on the other.. side

So let me go,

Give me dashes on the road,

Maybe I'm walking to a place I don't know.

I gotta see how things, they turn out,

‘Cause dreams in this town get cold.

You’ll miss your chances if you're marching in time.

Even if I go alone,

The least you can give me are dashes on the road

The city I never laid eyes on,

And I can swear there's an answer waiting there for me.

Driving to my horizon that's always been just out of reach

It's just what I need

If you love me, and let me just go.

Oh, give me dashes on the road,

Maybe I'm walking to a place I don't know.

I gotta see how things, they turn out,

‘Cause dreams in this town get cold.

You’ll miss your chances if you're marching in time.

Even if I go alone,

The least you can give me are dashes on the road

Yeah, I'm a little scared to leave home,

But every time that I close my eyes,

I know that I must go.

So, let me go,

Give me dashes on the road,

Maybe I'm walking to a place I don't know.

Maybe if everything turns out,

And I finally found my soul,

You’ll miss your chances if you're marching in time.

Even if I go alone, 

The least you can give me are dashes on the road.

Even if I go alone,

The least you can give me are dashes on the road.

Almost All Of My Friends Have Boyfriends, Except Me. Why?

I just came across a post on Facebook by Aiman Azlan regarding relationship (it is clearly stated in the title above). The answers given by him is seriously get to your nerves for those who keep asking this kind of questions to herself. So, I decided to copy and paste the whole entry because it is worth to be read and remembered.

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Assalamualaikum Aiman.

I broke up with my first love after a year. After that, I never had a boyfriend. Sometimes I ask myself, "Am I too ugly to have a boyfriend?" Almost all of my friends have boyfriends and when we go out, they always tell me about their boyfriends. I feel jealous.

Why does Allah do this to me?

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Waalaikumussalam.

Thank you for your honest question.

The desire to love and to be loved is natural. I have it, you have it, and others have it too. However, in Islam, we are taught how to love and to be loved in a way that God intends it. In Islam, we are also taught that we all have the power to make our own choices.

Hence, in this case, we can choose whether to love and to be loved the way God intends it or not. In the end, we will all live and die with the consequences of our choices, for better or for worse. 

I can imagine that you are feeling unappreciated knowing that you are boyfriend-less while most of your friends are with boyfriends. I am not trying to ridicule or undermine your feelings about this subject. I acknowledge the pain. What I suggest to you is to reconsider the situation from a different perspective.

Don't be sad that you don't have a boyfriend. Instead, be grateful.

The Quran said clearly, "And do not approach zina (premarital sex). Indeed, it is an ever immorality and is evil as a way." (Surah al-Isra: 32)

Zina is a destination and there are paths that lead to that destination. Not only does Islam teaches us not to commit zina, it also teaches us not to go near it. We shouldn't even be on the paths to zina, let alone arrive at the destination. In English they have a saying, "Prevention is better than cure." In this particular case, the saying fits perfectly. We are preventing ourselves from zina by avoiding the paths that lead to it.

When you are on the path, you will eventually arrive at the destination. It might take a short time or it might take a long time, but surely you will arrive at the destination if you keep walking on that path.

One of the paths that lead to zina is this boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. 

If you look at it that way, you should be grateful that Allah saved you from being on that path. Instead of feeling jealous about your friends, you should feel a sense of compassion for them and you should wish that they get off that path as well. They should be more like you, not the other way around.

This isn't to say that the people who have boyfriends or girlfriends are bad people. We don't condemn a person because of one sin. The person might be doing a sin in public, but we have no idea about all the good deeds that he or she commits in private. So we leave the judging part to Allah. But for this one particular sin, we offer our help if the person wants it and we ask Allah to open his or her heart to change for the better. 

I hope that helps. Forgive me if I have said something I shouldn't have.

Allah knows best.

May Allah grant you a righteous, lawfully-wedded spouse and may you both enter Jannah together. Ameen.

p/s: You are not too ugly to have a boyfriend. You are too precious to have one.

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Credit to Bro Aiman Azlan. Visit his website www.aimanazlan.com for more worth-reading posts. You surely will like it. :)

The Fault In Our Stars

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