People change and things go wrong

People are more difficult to work with than machines. And when you break a person, he can't be fixed.

The Battle of Labyrinth

Life is not perfect and so we are, fortunately. How fortunate it is if people could understand this imperfection which I think everybody has experience(s) on it. Being cruel to people who you hate, I believe that you are not hating him or her, but his or her attitude(s), right? I guess that is right.

Knowing this imperfection, we also live by our own choices and maybe some other choices which were decided by parents or on family demand. Life is full of choices. Branches here and there. To do this or not to do this. Too many 'or's until we choose to have the simplest job to do, yet to expect the most rich and satisfied reward. They do not really match each other, right? 

Just like seasons, people change. Sometimes, it is not the people itself, but the feelings within the person that influence his or her mind greatly. We often blame others for any wrongs. But do we check ourself and try to put ourself as the person at fault. I believe that we could feel if the fault comes from us. We have our own sixth sense. We know what we are doing, but it does not mean we are on the right track. Even a simple essay must be shown to our lecturers to check either we are on the right track and answer the questions.

It is like we have known each other for almost five years, and you know each more than five years. You might have bickering with each other along the years. And now, you have that kind of responsibility given by us. We believe that you can do it and that's why we agree on you.

Sincerity. Seriously a simple word, but how many of us can really understand its concept? Try to think about it. When is your last time doing things sincerely? Remember? Forgot? Ask yourself.

You know, most of us are not the mind reader. We do not know what you are thinking. But at least we can guess it. Your face expression, words, intonation and stress. We can read all that. We learn Linguistics! To care or not to care. Shakespeare himself could not make the decision. We meet people and we interpret. We talk and we analyse. Even a smile can create rumbles in your mind, right?

I have read some articles lately because I think I really need them. I need some readings. This brain of mine is too dry, literally saying. Too lack of meaningful motivation to bring me up. First thing first is to fully admit we really need help. We have friends everywhere. No man is an island. Tell them if we need help. Not to embarrass ourself for seeking some help, but to relieve and less our so-called burden. 

See some (countless) good things around us. Do wonder about it. Even the blue sky up there could give you a lesson. A wordless lesson as everything goes within yourself. Do say positive words and zero cursing words. Sorry, it is really unpleasant to hear. 

And, that is why life is not perfect. Embrace what we have and change for better future. People change, but life goes on. Cheers!

Challenge accepted

Try it for a day: go a day without going to Facebook or any of the other social sites you might traverse on a regular basis. Go a day without email or text messages. Disconnect, and just create, reflect, journal, sketch, brainstorm, walk, sit alone and meditate, read a book.

Let's try it for at least a day. :)

source : zenhabits

The Thinking Habit That Changed My Life - A Story

The Thinking Habit That Changed My Life

By Leo Babauta

I remember one evening, when my life was pretty different and I was overweight and deeply in debt and a smoker and had such a hard time changing things … I wasn’t feeling too good about my life.

I felt horrible about myself, and wondered why I was stuck. I felt hopeless and helpless, and generally depressed about the state of things around me.

Then I looked up at the sky, and saw the stars set in a deep blue-black canvas. And I thought, what a miracle life is.

And I resolved to mentally list the things I had in my life that were good.

My list of good things was something like this:

• I had a wonderful wife
• I had 5 amazing children (now 6)
• I had loving parents and siblings and grandparents and aunts and uncles and cousins
• I wasn’t sick
• I had a job
• I had decent shelter and food
• My family was healthy
• I could see, and appreciate the beauty of the world around me
• I could taste delicious food
• I had great books to read

The list went on, but you get the idea. Even when things seemed horrible for me, actually I was OK. And more than that, I had some amazing blessings in my life.

That night I resolved to count my blessings more often. I resolved to be grateful for what I had, for the people in my life.

I started the habit of gratitude.

Now, this seems like a trivial and maybe trite and hokey thing to many people. I’m here to tell you that it’s not trivial, and as trite/hokey as it may seem, it changes lives.

Here’s what happened to me, as I changed my thinking from one of negativity, to one of gratitude:

1. I appreciated my wife Eva more, and told her so, and felt good about having her in my life, and we deepened our relationship.
2. I also appreciated my kids more, and instead of getting mad at them so much, I would notice their lovingness, their curiosity, their humor and playfulness.
3. I appreciated my other loved ones more, and while I don’t always tell them how grateful I am for them, I do think it a lot, and do tell them much more often now.
4. I was kinder to others around me, at work and everywhere else, because instead of seeing the faults in everyone, I saw the good, and was grateful for them.
5. I needed less, because instead of thinking about what I don’t have, I was grateful for what I did have.
6. Little things bothered me less, because instead of complaining about every little thing, I would find things to be thankful for.
7. I appreciated nature all around me, smaller things that I might have missed before, beauty in everything.
8. Habit change became easier, because instead of focusing on how hard the change was, I found the joy in the changes, and joy in seeing myself overcome challenges.
9. Each and every moment became cause for gratitude, and living in the present became easier.

The list goes on and on, but each of these things is incredibly powerful. Not trite. Not hokey. Pure wonder.

So how do you pick up this habit? It’s interesting, because so much of our lives is spent in unconscious mental habits. Without knowing it, we complain, we nitpick, we stress about little faults, we see the bad in people and situations. Changing that doesn’t happen immediately.

But. You can change a little at a time. Start with a small gratitude session, and really be thankful. Really feel the happiness that something or someone is in your life.

Take a moment to make a list, right now, of the things in your life you’re thankful for. You just might be looking back on this moment years later, as the moment your entire life changed.

Source: Change your thinking habit